Anger and Frustration: The “Right” Way

When you feel like you have been wronged, when you are insulted in some way, or when things just aren’t going your way, feelings of anger or frustration begin to raise their voices. Anger is a rising energy, it comes up, making your face flush and your eyes get red. In Eastern Medicine it is linked to the liver. Think about how too much alcohol hurts the liver. A person that drinks too much is usually angry with a reddish nose. We call an angry person a hot head. We want to be healthy, we want a cool head and warm feet.

 Many of us like to bury our feelings. We push them down instead of pushing them out. Energy begins to stagnate, and turns over and over inside you leading to things such as insomnia, depression, irritability, painful periods, digestive problems, stiffness in the muscles, headaches, TMJ, and more. You have to be able to express yourself so you can heal. You have to accept and face your emotions. People have different healthy ways of dealing with anger. Some people take martial arts classes, scream into towels, punch pillows, write angry letters that they never send, or pound the pavement. Sometimes I throw things. I threw a bunch of old potatoes in the woods just the other day. I just kept hurling them as hard as I could and I can’t tell you how much better I felt afterward. I’ve also thrown old eggs, rocks into a lake, sticks…Doesn’t matter as long as a person isn’t a target. Just don’t sit there and smile and deny! If you’re upset you may be able to hide it from others but if you let it to continue to upset you, you will never be able to hide it from yourself.

Anger helps people finally stand up for themselves and speak out about what they want or deserve. Every feeling exists for a purpose, to show you what you want out of life. It can empower you. It  allows you to determine what is and what is not acceptable for yourself. You can use anger as power, it can help you overcome fears and push yourself. Just make sure you put it to good use and don’t let it eat you or those around you up.


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