Treat Yourself!

I was recently introduced to the television series, Parks and Recreation. In the show two of the characters celebrate their own annual holiday they call “Treat Yo Self.” The characters treat themselves to extravagant purchases, spa experiences, and other indulgences. A full day dedicated to giving in to desires and whims.

Maybe we find such amusement in it because so many of us have trouble treating ourselves. We feel guilty if we buy something we want and we hesitate to invest in ourselves, especially when others rely on us. To take a day to acknowledge ourselves and treat ourselves like we are special is, as this wonderful episode exposes, hilarious.

I am not suggesting pulling out your credit cards and going to the same extremes as characters in a TV series but I think there is something to take away from their idea. Too many of us forget to treat ourselves like we matter. We would go above and beyond for others but to do so for ourselves we view as selfish. When we feel our best, others benefit from our being at our best. So go get that special hair cut, manicure, new tie, macaroon, life coach, or whatever else you’ve been holding back from yourself. Big or small, realize you deserve your hopes, desires, and dreams for yourself. Remember to…



Love is Free


Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness. ” by Oliver Wendell Holmes

Even in a down economy, it still feels amazing to love and be loved.  Invest in yourself without spending a dime. Find and enjoy the happiness that comes with love.

When Things Take Time, Enjoy It!

“Even when you are doing your best, sometimes things take time to unfold. All the stress, worry, and pressure in the world won’t make time pass even one second faster. All they will do is rob you of peace in your life in the present. Do your best. Enjoy your life. Yes, it can and should be, that simple.” Doe Zantanmata

We are a society of instant gratification. We want what we want and we want it now. We will run a mile and then hop on the scale and expect to see the number drop. We take one pill and want to feel instant relief. We don’t enjoy the process, we just want the result. Except, when we finally get the result our satisfaction is only seconds, because we are already on to the next thing we want for our lives.

Believe me, patience is not a virtue of mine. I love instant gratification and immediate pay-offs. I love when things come easily and when things fall magically into place.  However, sometimes that is not the case and I have to constantly remind myself to be grateful for where I am and what I have right now. When I do that, patience grows and so does the joy in my life.

Even if a decision turns out to be a mistake, even if the risk doesn’t pan out, even if you fail, even if you get sick, or gain weight, or choose the wrong one…it really doesn’t matter right now because you have no way of knowing that all your worries will come true so…STOP WORRYING ABOUT IT.

“Worrying is like paying a debt that may never come due.”

So stop wasting your mind, happiness, and life. Do what you can, when you can, and enjoy every second.

Focus on the Wonderful

“If you focus on all that is awful, you will miss all that is wonderful.” Doe Zantamata


My family was in Miami. They sent me a picture of themselves wearing smiles, sunglasses, and sun as they lounged by their amazing hotel pool. I missed them. I was thinking, “If this was last year, I would be with them.” Then I looked up. . .


And started laughing. I sat, eating my lunch on a bench, overlooking the ocean. The sun was shining above me and I was warm enough without a coat or even a scarf. I had just come from strolling the farmers market surrounded by fresh and vibrant food, produce, and flowers. These are some of my most favorite things in life. Why in the world was I sitting there feeling sorry for myself? 

Be very careful what you focus on in any moment. It is easy to be blinded by negative thinking. Remember to look up and out at all you have. Be grateful right now. You will feel better instantaneously.

“If you have food in the refrigerator, clothes on your back, a roof over head, and a place to 
sleep, you are richer than 75 percent of the world. Just that – doesn’t that call for some
gratitude? If you woke up this morning with more health than illness, you are more blessed
than the million who will not survive this week because of illness. If you have money in your
bank, any money in the bank, or even in your wallet, and spare change in a dish someplace, you are among the top 8 percent of the world’s wealthy. 92 percent of the people don’t have that. If you can attend a church meeting without fear, that is fear of arrest or torture or death, you are more blessed than 3 billion people in the world. If you’ve never experienced the danger of battle or the lioneliness of imprisonment or the agony of torture or the pangs of starvation, you are ahead of 500 million people in the world today. If your parents are still alive or still married, you are very rare – even in the United States. So, if you have the opportunity to think as you choose to think, to worship as you choose to worship, and you have a little bit of change in your pocket, and you’ve got your health, then you got someone that cares about you. Then you have an awful lot to be grateful for. And treasuring our divinity means being in a constant state of appreciation, looking for occasions to be joyful, to be happy, to be in a state of gratitude. Every time I find a penny or a nickel or a dime on the street, anytime, I bend over, I pick it up, and I say, “Thank you, God” as a reminder of the abundance that flows into my life – when I’m just walking and breathing.”
Wayne Dyer