Who Am I? What Do I Want?

Who am I? What do I want?

Deepak Chopra gives these as some of the essential questions we need to ask ourselves everyday.

These questions lead me to ask a third question of myself…

Who am I? What do I want? . . .And is the life I am leading reflective of the answers to those questions?

That question lead to more questions:  What am I just doing out of habit? What am I doing for fear of failing? Where am I spending most of my time and energy? Are the efforts I am putting forth just getting me to a safe place or  to the things I truly want? Are the things I am pursuing today in line with the my values and goals?

It is easy to get caught up in the daily grind. The worry, the social norms, and other distractions. . .

When we ask ourselves essential questions our focus is shifted from a place of just living out our ordinary days to a place of reflection that allows us to have a greater vision for who we want to be and what we truly want to offer the world. It allows us to redirect our energy and efforts towards our goals. The authenticity in our lives will have us choosing actions that will naturally lead to manifesting our truest desires.


What if You Aren’t “Normal”?

Forget safety.
Live where you fear to live.
Destroy your reputation.
Be notorious.”
―     Rumi

What happens if you don’t live the 9-5 lifestyle, which today is more the 8am-8pm lifestyle? What if you don’t settle down, have a college degree, have a husband or wife, 1.5 kids, a white picket fence, and a house with a mortgage? What happens if you don’t pursue what society deems as practical, normal, or right? What happens if you don’t fit in the box someone else thinks you and everyone else should fit in? Is something wrong with you?

If you decide to live outside the norm, in my experience, someone will tell you that yes, there is. That someone could be a parent, a colleague, an aunt or uncle, a friend, or a stranger.

 It takes guts to live outside the norm, to disregard trying to keep the status quo. Pursue something that makes you happy instead of pursuing something that makes you fit in. We all want different things. Truthfully, a lot of the things I want for myself and my life would be considered normal. Many things however, are not. As an acupuncturist, I work in a field of medicine that is not always recognized by others. I have been called a witch doctor, a voodoo lady, crazy, naïve, and once in a while, even stupid for choosing it as a part of my profession. This is just the beginning of my list of wrongdoings. I am sure you have yours as well.

Whoever you are, whatever you want, the advice of the day is this: Go for it. Listen to yourself. Become your own champion. Surround yourself with supporters and ditch the naysayers. No one else has the right or the authority to deem themselves an expert on your life. You do not have to fit inside a box or meet someone else’s expectations. You deserve to be happy, so stop listening to others, and learn to listen to yourself. As the saying goes: “what’s good for one person is not always good for another.”

Suggested Reading: The Art of Possibility by Zander as recommended to me by the wonderful and talented composer, JoAnne Harris.