Why Can’t You Have IT?

“The only thing I have to release in order to get what I want is my story about why I can’t have it.”

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Pelicans find fish in the Gulf of Mexico in Sarasota, Florida.

 I have told people what I wanted and immediatly given them the reasons why I can’t have it.

“I want to __________(move, quit, do this thing, take this class, buy that, contact this person, try a new thing) but I can’t because…”

The excuses are endless: money, fears, skill level, your passion, the government, guilt, taxes, family, work…

It is frustrating for me to think back on how many times I have done this in my life. Excuses are fears and  self-doubt talking. Any excuse is self-limiting. Let them go, they aren’t serving you. There are a million reasons why certain things shouldn’t have been able to happen in my life and they happened anyway. Don’t let your story get in your way.

Nothing can change if we are too busy holding on to our stories of why we can’t. Watch the way you speak to friends and family over the next week, catch yourself when you cling to an “I can’t because story.” Try stating what you want, followed by “..and I am excited and open for the opportunities that will allow it.”

YOU WILL AND YOU CAN FIGURE OUT A WAY TO MAKE YOUR IT HAPPEN

I’m Not Trying to Be A Hero

My dad first said this to me when we went camping in the Adirondacks and I laughed as he blew up an air mattress for his tent. I was used to sleeping on the ground.

“I’m not trying to be a hero.” He says after the loud air compressor accomplished its task.

He wasn’t trying to prove anything to anyone, he was just going to do what he wanted to do and what was most comfortable. At 60 he can still outpace me and most of my friends up a mountain, bike whole islands in a day, do ridiculous calculations in his head in the time it would take me to pull up the calculator on my iPhone, and has been noted to say “Its only fun if you could die at any moment.” He isn’t trying to impress you with any of that, he could care less what you think…and that’s why its impressive.

Even if at some times his lack of caring about other’s opinion’s is embarrassing to a daughter.

We all want to live up to others expectations, but we find true peace when we let go of them. We can be more authentic when we let go of what others may or may not think of our decisions. Realize what accomplishments really matter to you and which don’t. It is okay to go at our own pace, to be the last in line up a mountain, or to ease the discomforts of “roughing it” with some modern comfort.

Steve Henkels drives us to hike up in the Adirondacks.

Steve Henkels drives us to hike up in the Adirondacks.

Ironically, if you have the courage to be true to yourself, to follow your own path, and to follow your dreams despite what others may think, you will end up as someone’s hero. Now,  when I camp with my dad I’ll borrow an air mattress, and you know what?

IT’S REALLY QUITE LOVELY!

You don’t have to be a hero, just be true to yourself.

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