You’ve Still Got 1/4 Left!

“The only way you’re going to achieve your dreams is if you MOVE towards them in the present”

2018 has three more solid months. My thinking…we can accomplish SO MUCH in 95 days.

There is still time to…

  • learn a new skill
  • schedule the appointment with the dentist, doctor, optometrist, acupuncturist, or massage therapist
  • apply for your dream job
  • take the class
  • send the application
  • ask for the raise
  • Get On…or OFF…Tinder/Bumble/Snapchat/Instagram/FB
  • hire a personal trainer, nutritionist, business or life coach
  • begin or finish writing your book and/or blog
  • read several books
  • improve a relationship
  • record episodes of your new podcast
  • book a vacation
  • get organized
  • get on-top of your finances
  • put systems in place that will make your life run more efficiently
  • implement new habits (go to bed before 11, exercise, meditate, etc.)

At the beginning of the year we all have ideas about what we want the next 365 days to look like, what we want to accomplish and experience in the expansive year ahead, how we want to feel…many of us have grand ideas but then the day to day gets in the way and we forget all about them…and then we blink, and it is almost October, OCTOBER, for Pete’s sake! We aren’t sure where the time went, and we aren’t sure what we have or haven’t accomplished.

My Rituals for Living Planner  encourages an evaluation of the way you are spending your time and energy in relationship to your goals every three months and Tim Ferris suggests doing fear setting at least every quarter. Stephen Guise suggests every month. They encourage it because the most productive, successful, and happy people stay mindful and invest their time in some self-review to get the most out of their lives. Writing things down, taking account of what is working for me and what isn’t in both my personal and professional life helps me to redirect my energies and refocus. I make a plan, I choose where I want to focus my time, I think about what I will feel best about accomplishing. It doesn’t take long, maybe 20-40 minutes depending on how detailed I want to be, but it does allow me  to get the most out of my precious time here on this planet. 

It doesn’t matter how you do it, but don’t keep drifting, take a look at your life TODAY.

…then you can watch as the curve on the graph measuring your satisfaction and happiness takes an ever-increasing uphill slant.

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“No matter how you define success, momentary happiness should have some role in it…. happiness has also been thought of as having a larger, almost spiritual quality that goes beyond both momentary feelings and reflective thought.

Philosophers have talked about this third kind of happiness in terms of the fulfillment that comes from exerting the right kind of effort on the right kind of task (for you) or experiencing a sense of deep connection to loved ones, nature, or the divine.” G.Richard Shell

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If You Die Today…What Will Die With You?

“Imagine if you will being on your death bed – And standing around your bed – the ghosts of the ideas, the dreams, the abilities, the talents given to you by life.

And that you for whatever reason, you never acted on those ideas, you never pursued that dream, you never used those talents, we never saw your leadership, you never used your voice, you never wrote that book.

And there they are standing around your bed looking at you with large angry eyes saying we came to you, and only you could have given us life! Now we must die with you forever.

The question is – if you die today what ideas, what dreams, what abilities, what talents, what gifts, would die with you?
Les Brown

 

Plan for 2018: Best Year Yet

“It us unlikely that anyone gets to the end of their life and wishes they had spent more time on their phone. As you take your last breaths, what do you want to have done with your life? In the end, only you get to decide if it was a life well lived. You’re shaping it right now. If you don’t like where you’re headed, there’s no time like the present to begin changing your course.

With that, we have one rule with planning:

Schedule what’s most important first, Always.” –Rituals for Living Dreambook and Planner

The beginning of the year is a time for reflection. What were the best things that happened last year? What do we want to see happen next year? How can we be better? What needs to change?

What does it take to accomplish a goal? How can we keep our commitments to ourselves?

We need:

The Willingness to Change

Different habits.

New priorities.

Awareness.

A plan.

You can use whatever you want to plan, but I find it usually helps to at least put items in your calendar. I’m not talking about doctors appointments and work deadlines either. Details like your new exercise plan, guitar lessons, the meeting with the guy that’s designing your new app, and the amount of time your setting aside to write your book need to be in your calendar. If we want to achieve new goals we have to prioritize new tasks that are going to help us accomplish them.

I was never one for super detailed planning until a friend gave me The Dreambook. I don’t know if it is the fun way it is laid out or what, but I feel excited overtime I open it and my mind on planning out all the details is forever changed. It has helped increased my productivity and shifted where I spend my time (more time cooking, exercising, creating, and less time in front of screens). The Dreambook helps you commit to your short- and long-term goals by creating awareness around personal growth, and whole health through creative processes, mind mapping, visioning, planning sessions, and a weekly boot camp. It also has space to journal along the way and reflect on your accomplishments. It has helped me to think upon where I am, where I want to go, and what steps need to happen for me to achieve everything I want out of life. I thoroughly enjoy sitting down with this as a tool for reflection, creativity, inspiration, and accomplishment. I am sharing it here for those who have wanted to pursue something but haven’t quite made it happen.

What dream is it time to pursue?

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Page in my Dreambook

 

It’s Never Too Late

“You are the author of your own life, and it’s never too late to replace the stories you tell yourself and the world. It’s never too late to begin a new chapter, add a surprise twist, or change genres entirely.” -Tim Ferris

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Just a gentle reminder, that it is never too late to live a life that makes you feel incredible. It is all a choice. I hope you choose to go after what you want. Look up from routines and habits once in a while. Reflect. Feel free to make any necessary edits.

Financially Happy

Being financially solvent and spending in line with our own values leads to increased happiness. We live in a culture that spends and spends, many times impulsively, and in a way that actually leaves us feeling less abundant, not more. It leaves less money in our bank accounts, more stuff in the garage, more things to organize, and less time to do things we love.

Our culture pushes us to buy, to have the shiny and the new, and we can all fall for the illusion. I find that I always feel happiest when I am spending in line with my own values, on things that I actually care about. Spending this way creates a new awareness around our priorities and our time.

For example, if we eat out all the time, we realize it never really feels that special to go out with a friend or partner. Eating at home is usually much healthier, costs less, and grows skill and creativity. Then, when we do go out, it feels different, and we extract much more joy from the experience.

I listen to podcasts or videos that feature Mr. Money Mustache or Ramit Sethi when I need inspiration and want to re-commit to investing and saving:

Mr. Money Mustache retired before the age of 30, not because he was making millions of dollars or won the lotto, but because he decided to save, invest, and spend his money in a way that added to his happiness. He believes that as a society we avoid “hard work,” even when many of the things that may seem harder, like biking to work, not only save us money, but make us feel happier and healthier, (and additionally help the environment.) He wanted to be a “super dad,” and not tied to his work, so he saved and invested for early retirement. He believes that the purpose of money is freedom, not to buy stuff.

Ramit Sethi promotes spending on those things that you truly value and skimping on those things that really aren’t important to you. His book, I Will Teach You To Be Rich, is a great place to start in anyone’s saving journey. He believes anyone can feel abundant, even while saving.

Try to get clear on what your values are, what truly adds to your happiness. Make a list and then think about actions that will support your happiness. I value time with friends and family, travel, experiences, learning, health, learning, creativity, and growth. If I spend and save according to these values, I never feel wasteful, I feel abundant and full. Re-think the way you save, get excited about putting money aside for a house, a trip, or early retirement! It’s not about deprivation, its about joy. The things you spend money on and save towards should spark joy in you!

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Not spending money on things I don’t value allows me to save for vacation to places that look like this, which always make me feel grateful and abundant!

 

Why You’re Too Busy To Be Happy

“On the one hand, we all want to be happy. On the other hand, we all know the things that make us happy. But we don’t do those things. Why? Simple. We are too busy. Too busy doing what? Too busy trying to be happy.”

—Matthew Kelly, Bestselling Author

What makes you happy? Usually, if we are truly honest with ourselves, it isn’t the big things, the things we strive for and stress over, its the other things. Things we are often too busy to even notice or make time for, let alone make a priority…things like time with friends, fresh flowers, time outside, a hug, a kiss, creating, a moment, a meaningful conversation, playing on the swings, dancing, laughing…laughing.

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and for me…a little travel…

Can you make some room for happy in your life today?

Candles on a Cake

Meet Herman! He is my fun cartoon friend who has adventures with his heart.

Meet Herman! He is my fun cartoon friend who has adventures with his heart. Today he was thinking that if every candle on his birthday cake was a wish, he would want to share them with you. He is giving you your candle, close your eyes, inhale, and make it a good one.  

Giving Up Who I am Today

Advice I Give Myself

“We must be willing to give up who we are today for who we can become.”

 Do the things we have in this moment, the beliefs we have today, and the relationships we are currently in, make us who we are? What about our responsibilities, our jobs and our finances? Do they make us who we are? What if we’re not happy with some of these aspects of our lives? If we’re not happy with it, it can’t be who we are, in fact then wouldn’t it be the opposite of who we are? Isn’t who we are most evident when we are happy?  How do we get from where we are to where we want to be? How do we get to the place that is truly reflective of who we are?

I highly encourage finding the best in every situation, in every aspect of your life, even if it isn’t your idea…

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Get Ready For A Great Adventure

“So get ready for a great adventure, the one you were really born for. If we never get to our little bit of heaven, our life does not make much sense, and we have created our own “hell.” So get ready for some new freedom, some dangerous permission, some hope from nowhere, some unexpected happiness, some stumbling stones, some radical grace, and some new and pressing responsibility for yourself and for our suffering world.”
-Richard Rohr, Falling Upward

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We found a little piece of our own heaven in Iceland in this hot river…

Listen to more of Richard Rohr’s wisdom on the You Made It Weird Podcast.

“You can’t get there, you can only be there.” -Richard Rohr