Make People Brighten

“I am always grateful that wherever I go somehow I did something that makes people brighten and that is a wonderful thing…” Jim Carrey

When I heard Jim Carrey say those words in this clip, it really struck me. What an amazing thing to be able to say about your life. Here are some simple ideas to get you started if you want to be able to say the same about your own life…

Tell a joke

– Give someone flowers (or anything) for absolutely no reason

– Give out compliments generously and freely

– Show excitement when someone walks through the door

Connect people 

– Leave a voicemail telling someone how they inspired you or made you proud

Celebrate someone

– Show your love

Pick up someone else’s tab: When I was 20, a couple I had never met or talked to picked up the bill at a diner for me and a friend, it is something I will never forget. We only had bagels and water, a college breakfast on a college budget, but I cannot explain how moved we were by the generosity of these strangers.

– Here is the most important idea: Just ask yourself this question whenever you encounter someone “How can I brighten their day?” …It will bring a state of awareness that will allow you to change and enhance every meeting you have. You will be surprised how much this question can change your life experience if you listen to the answers. Challenge yourself to look for situations where you can show your interest in others by doing something unanticipated. When you think of something, do it without hesitation and make someone’s day.

– And don’t forget this very simple act….SMILE

“Let my soul smile through my heart and my heart smile through my eyes, that I may scatter rich smiles in sad hearts.” -Paramahansa Yogananda

Have other ideas? Let me know in the comment section below!


Grow Your Life: Ways to Grow Your Relationships, Business, and You

“If a relationship is not growing, if a business is not growing, if you’re not growing, it doesn’t matter how much money you have in the bank, how many friends you have, how many people you love- you’re not going to experience real fulfillment. And the reason we grow, I believe, is so we have something of value to give.” Tony Robbins

Grow Your Relationships: Do something new together, share a secret, forgive, learn from the other person, focus on how you can give, let go of expectations, do something loving every chance you get, say thank you

Grow Your Business: Offer something new, have a certain percentage of profits go to charity, get better at what you do, accept that you can’t do everything, hire help, learn more about your business, write an article, try something new, start an online store, start a blog, take yourself seriously, get organized, commit to growth, set intentions, practice consistency, make and take action steps, be open to new opportunities, grow yourself.20150104_125116

Grow Yourself: Meditate, do yoga, exercise, practice awareness, learn things, do a detox, hire a coach, journal, reflect, laugh, take a class, do the things you’ve been meaning to do, value your health, value others, take risks, be honest with yourself and others, face fears, go after your dreams, read books, be open-minded, spend time in nature

Why You Should Love Giving!

“I learned long ago that those who are the happiest are those who do the most for others.” Booker T Washington


You cannot give to someone without giving to yourself.

Deepak Chopra’s second law, in his book The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success is the law of giving. In his book he states   ” if you want joy, give joy to others; if you want love, learn to give love; if you want attention and appreciation, learn to give attention and appreciation; if you want material affluence, help others to become materially affluent. In fact, the easiest way to get what you want is to help others get what they want. This principle works equally well for individuals, corporations, societies, and nations. If you want to be blessed with all the good things in life, learn to silently bless everyone with all the good things in life. “

Instead of being stressed out about buying presents, get excited for all the giving you get to do at this time of year! When you give, give for the pure joy of giving. Don’t have expectations of something in return and never overextend yourself to the point of becoming bitter. Giving grudgingly is not giving. Give because you want to make someone’s day a little bit better, and without you even trying it will make your day better too.

Here are few simple ways you can give:

Write a thank you note

Donate a blanket or coat

Give a heartfelt compliment

Give away books

Send a handwritten letter

Speak to a store manager about a great employee

Play Santa

Leave an amazing tip

When you get your coffee or tea get one for someone else

Give an hour of undivided attention to a loved one.

What are the best things you’ve given? What is the best giving thing you have done this week? What is the best thing someone has given to you?

Your Happiness Project

“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.” Dalai Lama
Research has shown that human being are poor predictors of what will actually make them happy. We are motivated by the way we think a certain accomplishment, thing, or achievement will make us feel. We want a pair of new shoes because they will make us feel pretty, we want to lose weight because it will make us feel lighter and healthier, we want success because it will make us feel proud. We want and we want, because we want to feel good. However, those things only lead us temporarily feeling good, we have to do a little more work if we want to feel good all the time and it has nothing to do with anything on the outside. You are going to have to look at yourself, the way you think, and your chosen actions.
How can you start your own happiness project?
1. Decide today to choose to feel happier.
2. Take action with this choice by including one thing everyday that you like to do.
3. Let go of the excuses that get in the way of 1 and 2.
Plan for happiness. Include things in your day that make you happy.  Focus on things each day that you can be happy about. It could be looking forward to curling up with a good book, the best cup of tea or coffee, a really good cocktail, a favorite meal, coming home to a loved one, a gift you can’t wait to give to a friend, or a really good hug. Make a list of all the things you really love, the things you really enjoy, and include them in your life. Do not put things off until tomorrow. Book your vacation, buy yourself fresh flowers (because YOU are worth it), make time for play, include things in your surroundings that make you smile.
Synonyms for happiness include pleasure, contentment, satisfaction, cheerfulness, merriment, gaiety, joy, glee, delight, lightheartedness, well-being, enjoyment, exuberance, ecstasy, jubilation, bliss, euphoria, and elation.
I know you want more of those things in your life. We all do.

Make yourself happy, and do it NOW.

This is a picture of a picture, I keep it on my phone because I can't help but smile every time I look at it.

This is a picture of a picture, I keep it on my phone because I can’t help but smile every time I look at it.

Happiness Leads to Success

Shawn Achor explains why the model of working harder to become successful so that you can be happy doesn’t work. The model needs to be reversed. If we are happy first we are better at our jobs and that will lead to more success.

Watch this amazing talk, get permission to be above average, and look inside for happiness instead of out. Practice gratitude, journaling, exercise, meditation, and acts of kindness to get you on your way to the good stuff!