“To touch someone with kindness, is to change someone forever. Heavy, huh? That’s nothing. Because for everyone you touch, you also reach everyone they will ever know. And everyone they will ever know. And everyone they will ever know. And … Continue reading
Peter Diamandis’s Ted Talk is an amazing reframing on the state of our world. If you need a break from the politics and want to feel better about how we’re doing, click here.
“…And because nothing is more important to us than survival, the first stop of all of that data is an ancient sliver of the temporal lobe called the amygdala. Now the amygdala is our early warning detector, our danger detector. It sorts and scours through all of the information looking for anything in the environment that might harm us. So given a dozen news stories, we will preferentially look at the negative news. And that old newspaper saying, “If it bleeds it leads,” is very true. So given all of our digital devices that are bringing all the negative news to us seven days a week, 24 hours a day, it’s no wonder that we’re pessimistic. It’s no wonder that people think that the world is getting worse.
But perhaps that’s not the case. Perhaps instead, it’s the distortions brought to us of what’s really going on. Perhaps the tremendous progress we’ve made over the last century by a series of forces are, in fact, accelerating to a point that we have the potential in the next three decades to create a world of abundance. Now I’m not saying we don’t have our set of problems — climate crisis, species extinction,water and energy shortage — we surely do. And as humans, we are far better at seeing the problems way in advance, but ultimately we knock them down.
So let’s look at what this last century has been to see where we’re going. Over the last hundred years, the average human lifespan has more than doubled, average per capita income adjusted for inflation around the world has tripled. Childhood mortality has come down a factor of 10. Add to that the cost of food, electricity, transportation, communication have dropped 10 to 1,000-fold. Steve Pinker has showed usthat, in fact, we’re living during the most peaceful time ever in human history. And Charles Kenny that global literacy has gone from 25 percent to over 80 percent in the last 130 years. We truly are living in an extraordinary time. And many people forget this…”
“If a relationship is not growing, if a business is not growing, if you’re not growing, it doesn’t matter how much money you have in the bank, how many friends you have, how many people you love- you’re not going to experience real fulfillment. And the reason we grow, I believe, is so we have something of value to give.” Tony Robbins
Grow Your Relationships: Do something new together, share a secret, forgive, learn from the other person, focus on how you can give, let go of expectations, do something loving every chance you get, say thank you
Grow Your Business: Offer something new, have a certain percentage of profits go to charity, get better at what you do, accept that you can’t do everything, hire help, learn more about your business, write an article, try something new, start an online store, start a blog, take yourself seriously, get organized, commit to growth, set intentions, practice consistency, make and take action steps, be open to new opportunities, grow yourself.
Grow Yourself: Meditate, do yoga, exercise, practice awareness, learn things, do a detox, hire a coach, journal, reflect, laugh, take a class, do the things you’ve been meaning to do, value your health, value others, take risks, be honest with yourself and others, face fears, go after your dreams, read books, be open-minded, spend time in nature
A Story for Your Heart
In Brooklyn, New York, Chush is a school that caters to learning-disabled children. Some children remain in Chush for their entire school career, while others can be mainstreamed into conventional schools. At a Chush fundraising dinner, the father of a Chush child delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all who attended. After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he cried out, “Where is the perfection in my son Shaya? Everything God does is done with perfection. But my child cannot understand things as other children do. My child cannot remember facts and figures as other children do. Where is God’s perfection?” The audience was shocked by the question, pained by the father’s anguish and stilled by the piercing query.
“I believe,” the father answered, “that when God brings a child like this into the world, the perfection that he seeks is in the way people react to this child.” He then told the following story about his son Shaya.
One afternoon Shaya and his father walked past a park where some boys Shaya knew were playing baseball. Shaya asked, “Do you think they will let me play?” Shaya’s father knew that his son was not at all athletic and that most boys would not want him on their team. But Shaya’s father understood that if his son was chosen to play it would give him a comfortable sense of belonging. Shaya’s father approached one of the boys in the field and asked if Shaya could play. The boy looked around for guidance from his teammates. Getting none, he took matters into his own hands and said, “We are losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we’ll try to put him up to bat in the ninth inning.”
Shaya’s father was ecstatic as Shaya smiled broadly. Shaya was told to put on a glove and go out to play short center field. In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shaya’s team scored a few runs but was still behind by three. In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shaya’s team scored again and now with two outs and the bases loaded, with the potential winning run on base, Shaya was scheduled to be up. Would the team actually let Shaya bat at this juncture and give away their chance to win the game?
Surprisingly, Shaya was given the bat. Everyone knew that it was all but impossible because Shaya didn’t even know-how to hold the bat properly, let alone hit with it. However as Shaya stepped up to the plate, the pitcher moved a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shaya should at least be able to make contact. The first pitch came in and Shaya swung clumsily and missed. One of Shaya’s teammates came up to Shaya and together they held the bat and faced the pitcher waiting for the next pitch. The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly toward Shaya. As the pitch came in, Shaya and his teammate swung at the bat and together they hit a slow ground ball to the pitcher. The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could easily have thrown the ball to the first baseman. Shaya would have been out and that would have ended the game. Instead, the pitcher took the ball and threw it on a high arc to right field, far beyond reach of the first baseman. Everyone started yelling, “Shaya, run to first. Run to first.” Never in his life had Shaya run to first. He scampered down the baseline wide-eyed and startled. By the time he reached first base, the right fielder had the ball. He could have thrown the ball to the second baseman who would tag out Shaya, who was still running.
But the right-fielder understood what the pitcher’s intentions were, so he threw the ball high and far over the third baseman’s head. Everyone yelled, “Run to second, run to second.” Shaya ran towards second base as the runners ahead of him deliriously circled the bases towards home. As Shaya reached second base, the opposing shortstop ran to him, turned him in the direction of third base and shouted, “Run to third. As Shaya rounded third, the boys from both teams ran behind him screaming, “Shaya run home.” Shaya ran home, stepped on home plate and all 18 boys lifted him on their shoulders and made him the hero, as he had just hit a “grand slam” and won the game for his team.
“That day,” said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, “those 18 boys reached their level of God’s perfection.”
Story retold as described from Wayne Dyer’s book, The Power of Intention.
“One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon instead of enjoying the roses that are … Continue reading
We all talk about how the Smart Phone has changed our world and us…
This video will make you think.
Hopefully you will reach out in a real way to someone, anyone…
And remember to be present for your friends and loved ones even if your pocket is vibrating.
Don’t bring your phone to bed, don’t bring it to dinner, don’t bring it to the next party.
Be there for the ones you love or be present enough to meet someone new.
Learn how to really communicate again.
Go do something without your phone.
Last week I was lucky enough to hear Eric Galen speak on entrepreneurship at a Free Lunch Friday event. About to go into the logistics of having or starting a business, he changed tactics and talked instead about enjoying the ride, collaboration, and the likeliness of failure.
We are always striving. Many times we are so focused on the outcome of our efforts that we overlook the joy in pursuing our dreams and the little things we can do for ourselves along the way. Do not focus on worry, which in and of itself is useless and unproductive. Enjoy yourself, no matter where you are on your path to your goals. Many successful business people look back and long for simpler times. Enjoy wherever you are in your life and always make time for things and people you love.
Our society values independence and self-reliance. Although it is important to do what you can for yourself, human beings need human contact. We need to bounce ideas off one another, we need to help one another. None of us can be good at every single thing or do it all, all the time. Eric emphasized the need for collaboration, how we cannot do it alone, and how no one makes it to the top without help from others along the way. Use your strengths to help others and reach out to others with strengths that can help you. Surround yourself with supportive people so that on a bad day you are quickly lifted up.
Failure…one of my biggest fears… I was so thankful Eric touched on this subject. Why I, and so many others, are so scared of it doesn’t seem to make sense considering how common it is and how resilient we are. We need to find hope in the likeliness of failure. Failure is not final. It teaches us what will and won’t work. It teaches us perseverance. It teaches us to expand and grow and learn. Eric explained that success is always highlighted in the media. We don’t see the failures of our most successful idols and this seems to create self-doubt when we ourselves are experiencing set-backs. There is comfort in knowing it is a likelihood. He discussed how the greatest artists and musicians write thousands of songs only to have 10 or 12 on an album or one song in a movie. Failure is nothing more than a part of the process, and most of the things we perceive as failures are just learning steps along the way.
These concepts can be applied to business but are just as important in any area of your life. So enjoy your ride in life, reach out to others, and see every failure as apart of your learning curve. I wish you great success in every area of your life, and so would Eric Galen.
Many thanks to him and the folks at Free Lunch Fridays.