You’ve Still Got 1/4 Left!

“The only way you’re going to achieve your dreams is if you MOVE towards them in the present”

2018 has three more solid months. My thinking…we can accomplish SO MUCH in 95 days.

There is still time to…

  • learn a new skill
  • schedule the appointment with the dentist, doctor, optometrist, acupuncturist, or massage therapist
  • apply for your dream job
  • take the class
  • send the application
  • ask for the raise
  • Get On…or OFF…Tinder/Bumble/Snapchat/Instagram/FB
  • hire a personal trainer, nutritionist, business or life coach
  • begin or finish writing your book and/or blog
  • read several books
  • improve a relationship
  • record episodes of your new podcast
  • book a vacation
  • get organized
  • get on-top of your finances
  • put systems in place that will make your life run more efficiently
  • implement new habits (go to bed before 11, exercise, meditate, etc.)

At the beginning of the year we all have ideas about what we want the next 365 days to look like, what we want to accomplish and experience in the expansive year ahead, how we want to feel…many of us have grand ideas but then the day to day gets in the way and we forget all about them…and then we blink, and it is almost October, OCTOBER, for Pete’s sake! We aren’t sure where the time went, and we aren’t sure what we have or haven’t accomplished.

My Rituals for Living Planner  encourages an evaluation of the way you are spending your time and energy in relationship to your goals every three months and Tim Ferris suggests doing fear setting at least every quarter. Stephen Guise suggests every month. They encourage it because the most productive, successful, and happy people stay mindful and invest their time in some self-review to get the most out of their lives. Writing things down, taking account of what is working for me and what isn’t in both my personal and professional life helps me to redirect my energies and refocus. I make a plan, I choose where I want to focus my time, I think about what I will feel best about accomplishing. It doesn’t take long, maybe 20-40 minutes depending on how detailed I want to be, but it does allow me  to get the most out of my precious time here on this planet. 

It doesn’t matter how you do it, but don’t keep drifting, take a look at your life TODAY.

…then you can watch as the curve on the graph measuring your satisfaction and happiness takes an ever-increasing uphill slant.

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“No matter how you define success, momentary happiness should have some role in it…. happiness has also been thought of as having a larger, almost spiritual quality that goes beyond both momentary feelings and reflective thought.

Philosophers have talked about this third kind of happiness in terms of the fulfillment that comes from exerting the right kind of effort on the right kind of task (for you) or experiencing a sense of deep connection to loved ones, nature, or the divine.” G.Richard Shell

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If You Die Today…What Will Die With You?

“Imagine if you will being on your death bed – And standing around your bed – the ghosts of the ideas, the dreams, the abilities, the talents given to you by life.

And that you for whatever reason, you never acted on those ideas, you never pursued that dream, you never used those talents, we never saw your leadership, you never used your voice, you never wrote that book.

And there they are standing around your bed looking at you with large angry eyes saying we came to you, and only you could have given us life! Now we must die with you forever.

The question is – if you die today what ideas, what dreams, what abilities, what talents, what gifts, would die with you?
Les Brown

 

Health Benefits of A Boat Ride

I really can’t express how much I love a boat ride. I don’t care if it is a canoe, a kayak, a sailboat, an air mattress, a speedboat, a catamaran, a raft, anything on the water…I LOVE IT. When I am on a boat, a feeling of peace and joy envelopes me, reality melts away, and I can’t help smiling. So I got to thinking…this has to be good for my health!

After a little research, here are some healthy reasons to turn-up the summer fun!

Salt Air = No Cares

Benefits of A Boat Ride

Exposure to Vitamin D & Fresh Air – Sunshine provides Vitamin D that promotes healthy bones and is medically proven to improve mood. Many of us spend the bulk of our days in the office, in the commute and in the rat race, that fresh air and the healthful aspects of sunshine truly become a rare commodity.  Avoid sunburn…but there’s a lot to be said for soaking up a few rays.

Lowers stress levels: The swooshing and splashing of water, the rhythmic movement of the yacht and the sound of the wind in the sails can all affect brainwave patterns. This relaxes and soothes a busy and highly stressed-out mind.

If you do not keep your stress hormone within the normal limits, it can weaken your immune system, increase your blood pressure, it can make you fat and it can also affect your cognitive abilities – this is why you need to “disconnect” from your daily routine every now and then and to relieve all that stress. Boating is an outstanding way to connect with nature and with your inner self: there is nothing more enjoyable and more relaxing than feeling the breeze rushing through your hair.” -James Gray

Connect with Nature – Studies show that connecting with the great outdoors is another contributor to overall good health.

Rejuvenate Your Senses – It’s clear that remaining energetic is an important factor to our well-being. Unlike just watching television or playing computer games, spending your free hours on a boat in fresh air, seeing things from a different perspective, maybe even paddling, can lead to increased energy, a clearer mind, and a feeling of balance.

Quality Time with Family/Friends – One of the biggest factors contributing to your happiness in life and your overall well being relates to your social life. In fact, medical studies link strong social ties to longevity, healthier eating habits, less stress and much more. When you step off the dock slip out of your shoes and head out on a boat charter with your nearest and dearest, you just got happier.

Extra Benefits if you leave your phone at home– Chronic health problems such as stress, insomnia and depression have been linked to our lack of ability to power down. In this digital age, it seems we can’t (or won’t) make a move without “checking in,” snapping a selfie, sending a text and staying in touch with the inbox. You don’t want your phone to get wet, so just leave it on shore.

Plan for 2018: Best Year Yet

“It us unlikely that anyone gets to the end of their life and wishes they had spent more time on their phone. As you take your last breaths, what do you want to have done with your life? In the end, only you get to decide if it was a life well lived. You’re shaping it right now. If you don’t like where you’re headed, there’s no time like the present to begin changing your course.

With that, we have one rule with planning:

Schedule what’s most important first, Always.” –Rituals for Living Dreambook and Planner

The beginning of the year is a time for reflection. What were the best things that happened last year? What do we want to see happen next year? How can we be better? What needs to change?

What does it take to accomplish a goal? How can we keep our commitments to ourselves?

We need:

The Willingness to Change

Different habits.

New priorities.

Awareness.

A plan.

You can use whatever you want to plan, but I find it usually helps to at least put items in your calendar. I’m not talking about doctors appointments and work deadlines either. Details like your new exercise plan, guitar lessons, the meeting with the guy that’s designing your new app, and the amount of time your setting aside to write your book need to be in your calendar. If we want to achieve new goals we have to prioritize new tasks that are going to help us accomplish them.

I was never one for super detailed planning until a friend gave me The Dreambook. I don’t know if it is the fun way it is laid out or what, but I feel excited overtime I open it and my mind on planning out all the details is forever changed. It has helped increased my productivity and shifted where I spend my time (more time cooking, exercising, creating, and less time in front of screens). The Dreambook helps you commit to your short- and long-term goals by creating awareness around personal growth, and whole health through creative processes, mind mapping, visioning, planning sessions, and a weekly boot camp. It also has space to journal along the way and reflect on your accomplishments. It has helped me to think upon where I am, where I want to go, and what steps need to happen for me to achieve everything I want out of life. I thoroughly enjoy sitting down with this as a tool for reflection, creativity, inspiration, and accomplishment. I am sharing it here for those who have wanted to pursue something but haven’t quite made it happen.

What dream is it time to pursue?

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Page in my Dreambook

 

It’s Never Too Late

“You are the author of your own life, and it’s never too late to replace the stories you tell yourself and the world. It’s never too late to begin a new chapter, add a surprise twist, or change genres entirely.” -Tim Ferris

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Just a gentle reminder, that it is never too late to live a life that makes you feel incredible. It is all a choice. I hope you choose to go after what you want. Look up from routines and habits once in a while. Reflect. Feel free to make any necessary edits.

Financially Happy

Being financially solvent and spending in line with our own values leads to increased happiness. We live in a culture that spends and spends, many times impulsively, and in a way that actually leaves us feeling less abundant, not more. It leaves less money in our bank accounts, more stuff in the garage, more things to organize, and less time to do things we love.

Our culture pushes us to buy, to have the shiny and the new, and we can all fall for the illusion. I find that I always feel happiest when I am spending in line with my own values, on things that I actually care about. Spending this way creates a new awareness around our priorities and our time.

For example, if we eat out all the time, we realize it never really feels that special to go out with a friend or partner. Eating at home is usually much healthier, costs less, and grows skill and creativity. Then, when we do go out, it feels different, and we extract much more joy from the experience.

I listen to podcasts or videos that feature Mr. Money Mustache or Ramit Sethi when I need inspiration and want to re-commit to investing and saving:

Mr. Money Mustache retired before the age of 30, not because he was making millions of dollars or won the lotto, but because he decided to save, invest, and spend his money in a way that added to his happiness. He believes that as a society we avoid “hard work,” even when many of the things that may seem harder, like biking to work, not only save us money, but make us feel happier and healthier, (and additionally help the environment.) He wanted to be a “super dad,” and not tied to his work, so he saved and invested for early retirement. He believes that the purpose of money is freedom, not to buy stuff.

Ramit Sethi promotes spending on those things that you truly value and skimping on those things that really aren’t important to you. His book, I Will Teach You To Be Rich, is a great place to start in anyone’s saving journey. He believes anyone can feel abundant, even while saving.

Try to get clear on what your values are, what truly adds to your happiness. Make a list and then think about actions that will support your happiness. I value time with friends and family, travel, experiences, learning, health, learning, creativity, and growth. If I spend and save according to these values, I never feel wasteful, I feel abundant and full. Re-think the way you save, get excited about putting money aside for a house, a trip, or early retirement! It’s not about deprivation, its about joy. The things you spend money on and save towards should spark joy in you!

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Not spending money on things I don’t value allows me to save for vacation to places that look like this, which always make me feel grateful and abundant!

 

Why You’re Too Busy To Be Happy

“On the one hand, we all want to be happy. On the other hand, we all know the things that make us happy. But we don’t do those things. Why? Simple. We are too busy. Too busy doing what? Too busy trying to be happy.”

—Matthew Kelly, Bestselling Author

What makes you happy? Usually, if we are truly honest with ourselves, it isn’t the big things, the things we strive for and stress over, its the other things. Things we are often too busy to even notice or make time for, let alone make a priority…things like time with friends, fresh flowers, time outside, a hug, a kiss, creating, a moment, a meaningful conversation, playing on the swings, dancing, laughing…laughing.

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and for me…a little travel…

Can you make some room for happy in your life today?

Abundance is Our Future

Peter Diamandis’s Ted Talk is an amazing reframing on the state of our world. If you need a break from the politics and want to feel better about how we’re doing, click here

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“…And because nothing is more important to us than survival, the first stop of all of that data is an ancient sliver of the temporal lobe called the amygdala. Now the amygdala is our early warning detector, our danger detector. It sorts and scours through all of the information looking for anything in the environment that might harm us. So given a dozen news stories, we will preferentially look at the negative news. And that old newspaper saying, “If it bleeds it leads,” is very true. So given all of our digital devices that are bringing all the negative news to us seven days a week, 24 hours a day, it’s no wonder that we’re pessimistic. It’s no wonder that people think that the world is getting worse.

But perhaps that’s not the case. Perhaps instead, it’s the distortions brought to us of what’s really going on. Perhaps the tremendous progress we’ve made over the last century by a series of forces are, in fact, accelerating to a point that we have the potential in the next three decades to create a world of abundance. Now I’m not saying we don’t have our set of problems — climate crisis, species extinction,water and energy shortage — we surely do. And as humans, we are far better at seeing the problems way in advance, but ultimately we knock them down.

So let’s look at what this last century has been to see where we’re going. Over the last hundred years, the average human lifespan has more than doubled, average per capita income adjusted for inflation around the world has tripled. Childhood mortality has come down a factor of 10. Add to that the cost of food, electricity, transportation, communication have dropped 10 to 1,000-fold. Steve Pinker has showed usthat, in fact, we’re living during the most peaceful time ever in human history. And Charles Kenny that global literacy has gone from 25 percent to over 80 percent in the last 130 years. We truly are living in an extraordinary time. And many people forget this…”

Candles on a Cake

Meet Herman! He is my fun cartoon friend who has adventures with his heart.

Meet Herman! He is my fun cartoon friend who has adventures with his heart. Today he was thinking that if every candle on his birthday cake was a wish, he would want to share them with you. He is giving you your candle, close your eyes, inhale, and make it a good one.